This important for those who want to bring their marriage to please and glorify their Lord and Saviour.
(Valentine’s Day devotional 2015)
“Fighting is good for your marriage, it helps to get everything out of your system”…
“Fighting in a marriage is a sign of a very strong, healthy, and passionate love for one another”…
“All couples fight… if they tell you otherwise, they are lying”…
“We fight a lot because making up is so much fun.”
Huh? ….
All of these statements are made by those who desire to justify anger and fighting in the marriage relationship… but can anger and fighting in a marriage really be justified?
Is fighting in a marriage a good thing? Is fighting a sign of a true deep passionate love for one another? Is fighting a “normal” activity in a marriage? Does a great makeup session justify getting angry at one another?
In this Valentine’s Day devotional, we will be looking at the interrelationship of self-sacrificial love, and anger within the…
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By your definitions of fighting and disagreement, I agree. But as a marriage counselor in training, I think much of the advice to “fight” really means your definition of disagreement. I know of no reputable therapy that advocates fighting as you define it. The idea is to own up to disagreement and work it out, rather than let it fester into resentment which may well leading to fighting if unchecked. So symantics aside, you hit the nail.
I see. Thanks for answering such question.
So do you agree that it’s not necessarily arguing that’s the problem, but the way the couple fights?
Argue can be healthy. But not to the point to threaten in order to get one’s way. And the other does not feel heard.
When two come together as one, there should always be a common ground the find, to smooth out any disagreements. Yoshiko we are all human and sometimes it will happen, but that does not mean one hates the other! Always seek the higher ground in all things…love will conquer all when given a chance. Hugs to you my sister! God bless!
Disagreements are okay. Respect for each other’s strengths and weaknesses are important.