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Do Wives Need to Work?

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This may pose a different light of the Bible to everyone. The question of women having career and work always intimidate the wives especially mothers. Even though it is wonderful to be with our children at home, I realize another element of the Bible often are laid aside. Proverbs 31, which is the Old Testament. May this impart wisdom to the women, soon to be wives and even mothers.

Do you believe in taking care of your parents financially and physically during their old age? My friends’ and my mothers are good examples and inspirations to my friends, siblings and I. Having enough money can

  1. Contribute to the house loan;
  2. Care our parents financially;
  3. Secondary income in case of husband unemployment.
  4. Touch wood in case husband passes away due to accident or sickness. Therefore, we need to pray for our husbands’ well being and protection. Our younger days were filled with the reality of the pangs of desperation. We have been observing the struggling widows making their ends meet to feed their children. Our parents discuss about the widows’ lifelong journey and succeed to care their children. This is a good news.

Then we can feed the children and provide them with good education to increase their employability skills.

Everyone, please read the Bible clearly who are at risk. The widows and the orphans. Does it mean the grown up children do not need to take care of our old aged parents who take care of us with love to grown ups? Remember who strengthen our feeble hands and legs during our younger days.

Some of my friends and my mothers work. When our dads are having a hard time to earn the money, our mothers use their money to provide for the family and continue our education. They can still help the poor who are in need. So that the poor can stand up and help others.

Does it mean wives no need to work? Please read and digest Proverbs 31 and share your feedback on this issue. I know this is the harsh facts of life I am sharing throughout my friends’ and my lives. It is the reality of life and we see God’s goodness and providence though we receive Christ in our late teens.

Many women of faith love to quote that earning money is the husbands’ responsibilities whereas house is the the wives’ responsibilities. Does this exempt them from helping financially? However, the book of proverbs 31 and my mother’s life inspire me. My bunch of friends have similar predicament too. Our mothers enable to continue our education from college to bachelor honours when our dads were going through financial difficulties. Our parents believe to equip us with the fishing rod instead of giving us the fishes. Their best efforts and fishes are spent to strengthen the feeble new generation. We thank The Lord for our parents and strive to be a blessings and inspire others. God bless you all for reading my poetry to minister.

About Yoshiko

I'm a housewife. My hobby is listening to music, watching movies and dramas, read Manga, and drawing. I enjoy watching Asian movies and dramas such as Japanese, Hong Kong, and Korean. Inspiration comes through my emotions and when I pursue my hobbies. How I wish my Song Lyrics can become a song. And I wish to learn piano, but I don't have the time as now I have a baby. Now, he is a cute and active four years toddler.

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  1. i will not comment on bible . but i appreciate what u wrote about being financially independent . a woman working can contribute to financial benefits and goals
    i support this view

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  2. How a woman chooses to help those around her is perhaps a more difficult choice than men have, but that is society’s constraint. My wife did not work after our child was born. My mother did work to help support us financially. They both made the best choice, but they both made their choice with the needs of their family in mind. I think women, by their nature, are more capable of putting others first in their lives. I’m comfortable with whatever choice they made.

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    • That is not just society constraint. There are those women who never think to enter into workforce. There are men who cage their wives. A norm in Asian family. It is all a matter respecting each other and care for the family.

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  3. Yoshiko, I enjoyed learning about your family and your mothers’ stories, and your own thoughts about working mothers.
    My view is this, that before marrying young Christian women should prepare themselves to work by getting an education, technical or of whatever kind they like. After marrying, being with the children is of the greatest importance. But, because life is imperfect, if anything happens, these women will be prepared to enter the workforce to support a family alone or to be part of its support.
    My wonderful Mother was a single Mom and had to work all week. She was often too tired for me. Then on the weekend, she cleaned the house on Saturday and made a big meal for extended family on Sunday. A working Mother is not a good thing for the family and children unless it is necessary in some way, or for a time. A part time job, a couple days a week is nice when the children are older, and then when they are grown she can start working again if that is her wish or she must.
    Important questions here are who can best care for our children? Isn’t that us? Do we have to work, that is, are we being selfish or fulfilling a need to help support the family? There are more questions. I don’t think the Proverbs 31 woman had little children.
    God bless you!
    Maria

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    • Maria, I understand your point. Please read Proverbs 31 carefully. It mentions children. Though it is us to care for our children, we need to learn to earn our own income. It depends on the mother’s own view. What is wrong to work? There are certain work that can be done at home. From there, our children can learn that work is part of life and understand the importance to work hard. We are not supposed to bring up a spoilt child. We need to learn to balance work and family. So there is nothing wrong with working.

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      • Yoshiko, you’re right Proverbs 31 does mention her children and husband and their positive response to her. There is no indication of the age of her children and to be honest I always imagined grown children but it doesn’t say this. Young children can be grateful too. Her work seems to be geared toward providing for her family and home, except for the bringing in of food and buying of a field. Working at home would be a great fit with this.
        Here is another important Scripture, and as an older woman it is my blessing to give it to you as a loving young wife and mother:
        Titus 2
        But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: 2 that the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. 3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

      • Yes. This is what I am trying to convey. Thanks to find Titus scripture.

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